Ever wondered why it feels like everyone else seem to be succeeding with little effort and it feels you are just stuck and not moving quite at other peoples’ pace?
Hey my friend, it is a common experience to us all.
Life is ever evolving and people are in dynamic motion flowing along. Some making the most of opportunities to become successful while others are not so lucky. (that is if you believe in luck)
But everyone of us is unique and running our clear set race. As we put in our best trying to succeed at whatever we find to do, we must bear in mind that we are not in a competition with any other person.
In reality though, despite all our good intentions and hard work it sometimes feels as if certain forces beyond our immediate control are forever moving the goal posts; this can be so discouraging. We can become fearful to try again or in extreme cases we give up all together! Either way, there is ground to consider a famous saying that winners don’t quit and quitters don’t win.
Make a choice to be a winner and have a winner’s mindset – There is no giving up option!
If and when you find yourself at the point where you do not feel you need to try anymore, then you have walked yourself into a state of ‘learned helplessness’ – At this stage you would have succeeded in learning and conditioning your mind that you are ‘helpless’.Who says that you are, even when the situation dictates that, get up and tell yourself that you can unlearn that process and keep trying. You can make things happen no matter the situation.You have all it takes to make change happen! You can do it.
Firstly choose to learn lessons from the failed attempts so that you are thoroughly equipped with what it will take to have your break through in the future attempts.
Think for a second, do you know how much is encoded in the human brain every waking second?
If you had an idea you would know that we are a peculiar race tough, rugged and capable of effecting change by processes (learning and unlearning; associating and dissociating e.t.c)
Perseverance and making the right choices does pay, keep doing it!.
Consider this quote from the twenty-sixth American President:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly; and his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
-Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919)
So even though we have many attempts at trying and success is not near sight, we need to persevere. This could be very hard indeed but remember it is not how far but how well rounded one turns out at the end. If we persevered at trying there is a greater probability that we shall triumph at the end.
Secondly we need to be careful not to enter the competitive mindset where we could become overwhelmed by envy and jealousy of others we perceive as succeeding.
Offer genuine and sincere help to others if and when they need it. In doing so, great and multiple streams of blessing will become opened to you.
Believe me, there is triumph with trying. This may take many attempts and more importantly perseverance but at the end, the triumph will surely come to be if we do not give up trying!